This post is solely dedicated to people who like me, live abroad, away from our India. This is not an advice post. Nor a suggestive post. It’s something that always keeps me wondering – why do we all live abroad and say we miss India but just don’t return to our homeland?
I mean, all of us have our heart in one place but our body somewhere else. Just like a person finds it difficult to forget their first love, we can never forget memories of our homeland, but we still tread on, hoping at some point we will come back for good. We all wait for something to happen to make us bid adieu to this foreign country. But what’s that something…that’s what I thought I will explore here.
You see, each of us would have had different reasons for entering an alien country, but ask a person why he/she hasn’t returned home yet, their reasons will most likely be the same. Crazy right? Read on, and see if your excuse for staying abroad is one of the many below. If not, you my friend do have to let me know what your reason is! Because, you might be a rare phenomenon 🙂
1. Color me Green!
Of course, the Green Card (GC). The most awaited card of all times by people living in US. The thing is, most Indians in US would either be midway in their GC processing, or probably getting all ready to apply for GC. Either way, in their mind, it makes no sense for them to leave US without getting their GC processed fully. So they remain stoic, year after year, waiting forever to get their card. Frankly, I am not sure I know what use a GC would serve once we return to India…except for possibly saving a stamping trip?
2. Family politics
Some people know they have the worst in-laws on the planet and hence feel it’s better to stay away from India. They prefer to suffer alone on some days, than be together in the same town and be miserable every single day. So yeah, the easiest route to freedom – stay abroad.
3. Oh no, Traffic..!
Oh yes, that’s an excuse. Some people get so used to whizzing by in their cars abroad, that they get easily flustered by the traffic in India. It gives them jitters to even think they have to wake up early to beat the morning traffic to work! “See, that’s why I like abroad better, I can wake up late but still get to office on time”, you are sure to hear them say!
4. A 9 to 9 job, never!
Work culture abroad is definitely different from India, everyone would agree to that. When you are working amongst a group of people belonging to different nationalities, there is less job politics and more fun involved. So people fall head over heels in love with this 9 to 5 job culture, that they dread going back to their home country where they have to work quite possibly on weekends too(shudder!). Agreed, job politics sucks, but in India, team mates might actually build a stronger bond of friendship, what with almost everyone speaking the same tongue and actually getting your dumb movie jokes. You win some, you lose some.
Believe it or not, some people actually give this out as a reason. They like this clean “abroad air” so much, that the air in India is not really to their liking. “I get sick whenever I am there”, would be their excuse. Well, not sure what to add to this..
6. When kids turn 5
Ah, families with kids. Sometimes it makes you wonder whether they have split personalities. You see, at times they are very confident that abroad is much better for raising independent kids, and other times they feel 100% certain India is THE country for raising well mannered kids. So not sure what to do, they settle in between. They console themselves saying that they are going to stay till their kid turns 5 or 6, and then they will go to India. Because, you see, after the kids turn 5, they can easily be “spoilt” by everything abroad. Don’t ask me whether they wouldn’t get spoilt when they are younger..probably they are magic years, I don’t know.
7. Who’s first now?!?
Again, when it comes to raising kids, parents think India is a competitive place in terms of schooling. In India, they feel people compare their kid with their relative’s kids, their neighbor’s kids, their friends’ kids, probably every other kid they come across. They feel it’s not likely so, when they live away from India. True to some sense, because you do get to meet different types of kids abroad. It has it’s own set of positives and negatives.
8. Partner likes, other stays
Then there are these people who would go back to India in a second, if only they were given a choice. But their stopping block would be their partner. Their partner might love abroad so much, so all they can do is grind their teeth and bear with the misery year after year. They have no choice, because they are stuck between the two worlds they love – the love-world with their partner and kids, and their home-world enjoying with everyone in India. They keep waiting for a magic to happen, which would make their partner suddenly change their mind about abroad life and return home. So it all comes down to how much sacrifice one is willing to make for the other.
9. Bitten by the health bug
I have to say, when one lives abroad for some time, they would definitely get taken by the medical facilities available there. Specialized doctors are there for diseases that we don’t even know exists in the world! It’s true, abroad is a boon for people who are in need of serious medical treatment of any kind. “Patients are actually seen on their appointment time and not an hour later, you know”, they would state excitedly. So yes, bidding farewell to all that – tough man!
10. Those who just love abroad
And there are these people who simply love everything a foreign country has to offer and don’t want to return. They love the easy life, the different cuisines, luxuries that comes with abroad life, and most of all – independent life and free weekends. Wearing what they love and doing what they wanna do, without being judged – that’s something they all hate to surrender. They do miss their family, but I think they might work something out and make it possible for every one of them to stay together, abroad. Hey, the heart wants what the heart wants!
So these are some of the most commonly heard reasons for staying abroad and not returning to India. It’s unfortunate we Indians abroad, say we love India so much but just not enough to make a bold choice to return to India for good. We know in our hearts we will always be aliens when we are in another country. Each of us have our own valid reasons, our own stopping block to stay abroad, but at some point, we will all run out of excuses and have to make a decision. I can only hope it happens sooner than later for everyone, me included.
All my friends, know what my excuse is, but what’s your excuse for staying abroad? Is it one of the many above? Oh and my heartiest wishes if you have decided to return to India for good! 🙂